Missionary Dating

You’re looking at a screenshot from the website DateToSave.com, a website that encourages what she calls “missionary dating.”

What’s missionary dating? Simply put, it’s when a Christian person dates a non-Christian person in the hopes of converting them to Christianity. Here’s a snippet from the website creator, “Tamara”, herself:

Hello, my name is Tamara! As you can probably tell, I’m a Christian woman who loves Jesus Christ and cares for all humans, even the wicked. What you probably don’t know is that I’m hot. My picture below isn’t really that good. I want to use my beauty for GOD, and want to encourage Christian women (my sisters in Christ) to do the same, according to the Great Commission.

I can’t tell if this is real or not. My spider senses are tingling, but I think this is just whacky enough to be legit.

In the college ministry I was a part of, we had the “missionary dating” phenomenon. It involved a person, usually a female, who wanted to date a guy who wasn’t part of the campus ministry. This guy was seen as an “outsider” and the poor young gal was warned against “backsliding.” What ended up happening is that most everyone in this particular ministry became terrified to date anyone for fear of being blacklisted. Ugh.

So what do you think? Is SaveToDate real or fake? Have you ever heard of or experience the “missionary dating” evangelism strategy?

Holler if you hear me.

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11 Responses to “Missionary Dating”

  1. Geek for Him November 10, 2010 at 7:38 am #

    I think its wrong to be honest. I think if you go into a relationship with a sole purpose of converting someone, once they are converted what happens?

    Just seems a bit over the top and wrong if you ask me

  2. Trey Gourley November 10, 2010 at 7:39 am #

    Looks like the link is incorrect in the post… it should be http://datetosave.com/

    • Justin Wise November 10, 2010 at 8:32 am #

      Thank you, sir. You are a gentleman! Fixed.

  3. Tim Owens November 10, 2010 at 8:31 am #

    I’m calling her bluff, no freakin way that’s legit. Funny though

    http://twitter.com/#!/datetosave/status/7118680886

  4. Derek Johnson November 10, 2010 at 12:30 pm #

    Fake, fake, fake. The writing style is quite polished, well beyond the intellectual level of the person who would truly believe this. Plus, the emphasis on hotness is grasping for theological straws. A person who truly believed this would have a better theological argument for it. It is hilarious, though.

    • Justin Wise November 10, 2010 at 7:51 pm #

      I certainly hope it’s fake!

  5. Jeff November 10, 2010 at 3:08 pm #

    What gets into people? This may not be for real but I bet it has inspired someone to seriously consider this approach to “reaching the world.” Yikes!

    • Justin Wise November 10, 2010 at 7:52 pm #

      I think this is meant to be satirical, but it’s not too far from the truth!

  6. fritz November 14, 2010 at 10:56 am #

    A fake. But actually pretty funny. The tip is the picture. Clearly a paste. the bit about twitter is also clearly meant to be bimboish but is more obviously written by a guy. Once you see that…other points are clearly written by a guy who has experienced something like…. being capriciously tossed away by an arrogant “christian” girl

  7. Michelle November 15, 2010 at 6:14 pm #

    The fact it doesn’t mention the whole thing about not being “yoked to an unbeliever” makes me think it’s fake. Anyway, I think they are making a good point, perhaps. A woman in town, a pastor’s wife, befriended me, but it turned out she was only interested in getting me to attend her church. Ouch.