Sarah Palin recently called Kathy Griffin a 50-year-old bully. Seems Griffin has made a career out of harassing Palin and her kids, pushing the family around in the press and mocking their troubles. Griffin has even vowed publicly that it was “Willowâ€™s [Palin’s 16-year-old daughter] year to go down.” Classy.
Building one’s self up.
Tearing another down.
That sounds like the work of a bully to me.
Whether we’re young or old, we face bullies in our lives. Yesterday I wrote in TOMM,
The closer you get to doing what it is you want to do, the more people will try to bring you down.
The people who seek to bring you down as you get closer to your sweet spot are nothing more than bullies. They are trying to make their situation in life more tolerable by attempting to make you miserable. They use fear, politics, drama, cruelty and, in Kathy Griffin’s case, biting, sarcastic humor to enforce their bully rule.
You have to realize that’s what bullies are: Cowards. They see you taking chances, making moves, living a life that they want to be living and can’t be honest enough to admit it. Instead of honesty, they choose to cut you down to make their like more tolerable. They would rather demonize, marginalize and ostracize you than take a good, long, hard look in the mirror and ask the question, “What am I going to be about?”
Here’s the thing about bullies, about cowards: They almost always back down when you confront them head on. I’m not saying you need to physically confront bullies, but “confront” them in other ways:
- Lean into the talents and gifts you’ve been given.
- Love your family with bravado, enthusiasm and determination.
- Make mistakes. Lots of them. And then get back on the horse and try again.
- Live outside of their box. Bullies can only enforce their rule if you play in their box. Make a new one.
You get the idea.
I’m convinced that you were meant to live a life that is full of joy, peace, happiness and freedom. Don’t let the bullies, even well-meaning bullies, tell you otherwise. And for God’s sake, stand up to the Kathy Griffin’s in your world.